Psychologists have known for some years now that successful relationships depend on each partner perceiving the other as significantly worse that them, as a way of not feeling guilty whilst having someone to blame for their own failings. Unsuccessful relationships on the other hand have been found to involve one or more partner being unprepared to put up with this apparent nonsense.
However, what leading psychologists are now finding is that current life expectations set by the media through idolising and obsessing over ‘dishiest celebs’ coupled with consumerist principles of ‘crave then chuck’ are making people simply too shallow to get what they need for quality of life.
This is becoming all too obvious in the plethora of reality shows, showing many instances of developing incompatibilities with reality, which are now leaving an increasing number of viewers wondering what they should do with their lives.
One counsellor stated “Young people in particular are experiencing a higher likelihood of chronic depression as a result of poor expectation management, underpinned by evidence in the media that the emotional investments in dream partners, who will look and act the way they desire, don’t even work for their ‘dishiest celebs.”
“Like most of my mates” explained Sam age 17 “I won’t even speak to a girl unless she looks like Cheryl Cole. There’s no point.”
“If a lad has any hope of dating me” declared Donna, age 15 “He needs to be like Jason Statham, a bit bad, but loaded. You know what I mean.”
A recent feminist think-tank has proposed that what is needed is for schools to develop within young people’s minds a healthy respect for compromise. As one mother said “It is about appreciating and holding to what might be considered old-fashioned values of give and take, as long as this time the girl comes out on top.”