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Started 2 years ago by PluckyMunky
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PluckyMunky

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I appreciate that there are those on here who do not like me and to whom I have caused offence (including the editor). I apologise for that. It was not my intention.

I have enjoyed chatting to lots of people and hearing their stories as much as I have enjoyed posting my (admittedly weak) subs. I think, overall, I have done my bit in contributing to the site.

I am not a 'standing at the bar, telling jokes and laughing loudly' sort of person and make no apology for that. There are different sorts of humour.

I have not been 'flouncing' in the past couple of days but reacting to what I thought was an odd situation, both from the editor and from some contributors. I had not quite anticipated some of the venom. If I come over as a bit sensitive, that is because I am. It goes with the territory of being a bit barmy.

If the general consensus is that I should leave the site, I will respect that.

Mostly, I enjoy being on the site and chatting to people. There is possibily a bit more to me than the fatuous persona that I usually present. Plucky.

Posted 2 years ago #
Doctor Moptop

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Do you think, perhaps, that you might be misreading the situation?

It's very difficult to read humour and irony in on screen responses. I've seen humorous and very dry responses to your chat posts - certainly not venom. You concluded that the 'thank God he's not coming' tag was aimed at you - it could have been aimed at anyone on the site. It could have just been an 'aimless' comment. Most of my comments are entirely aimless.

You had a sub removed. No doubt lots of people on here have. You've had far more subs NOT removed. So chalk it up to experience and move on (with the humour, not literally!)

We post subs to make people laugh, not to look for validation of our personalities.

I suppose the more insecure you feel, the more you will demand a response - any response, negative or positive will do. You risk creating a self-fulfilling prophecy; either ignored so concluding that no-one likes you; or attention-seeking and getting responded to in a way you don't entirely like, thus concluding that no-one likes you.

How do you break this cycle? By posting subs and jokes and calming down about the 'personal' side of things.

That's my advice. Feel free to ignore it if I've got it wrong, but I can't help feeling you are winding yourself up dreadfully here and making yourself very unhappy in the process.

Posted 2 years ago #
PluckyMunky

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Yup, thanks, Dr M. I think you are probably right - except I notice a sudden slew of tags attached...You are right, though: I am responding too personally. Thanks, again.

Posted 2 years ago #
Zadok the second

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I'm a munky fan. But then, I don't really know what this is all about

Posted 2 years ago #
Doctor Moptop

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The tags are somewhat cowardly IMO but perhaps people are feeling a little wound up. too?

My prescription is to stop the 'hurt and lashing out' subs (ie. the leper colony one) and just start posting funnies again. Also, aim for quality over quantity.

This is a storm in a teacup compared to some forums. A few more mass murders and injured football players and it will have all blown over and be forgotten.

Now, do you have private medical insurance, and who should I send the bill to?

Posted 2 years ago #
PluckyMunky

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I'm an emeritus professor of mental health nursing, so can we waive the fee, Dr M? Thanks, again

Posted 2 years ago #
shitsu_tonka

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To be honest, Plucky, sometimes I wonder if you aren't a subtle troll, and I do hope not. But your behaviour on here, the cycle of attention seeking posts, adverse reactions when the response isn't what you'd like it to be, passive-aggressive 'I'll leave if you want me to' statements, and mention of your mental health issues - the internet equivalent of a get-out-of-jail-free card - does occasionally makes me wonder if it all isn't just a wind up.

I wrote I hope not because you generally come across as a top bloke and I enjoy chatting with you.

This is just the internet, it's not serious. I love this chat room because it is a silly place. Just relax and have fun.

Posted 2 years ago #
Mrblacker

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Plucky, don't go.

So some people don't like what you submit. That's no reason to stop.

So the editor deleted your post - that is after all his perogative.

In my opinion - and as I've stated before - all humour is subjective. What I find amusing others won't - and vice versa. We are usually a broad church and while sometimes we need absolution - there's no need for excommunication.

Posted 2 years ago #
PluckyMunky

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To be honest, Shitsu, I don't know what a 'troll' is, in this context. What I have said about myself is the case: I couldn't be bothered to fuck about. I enjoy chatting to you, too and hearing about your doing well in stand up and on tv. I will lighten up.

Thanks, Mr Blacker. humour is subjective and you are right, its a mistake to take it too personally.

Posted 2 years ago #
Mr.3374

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It's the web.
It isn't for real, we create our virtual silly place, and we're silly in it.
No-one has holding points against anyone on here, we just want a chat and a laugh.
I do anyway, it's a relief from my rugby site (you won't believe the post/topic deletions on there, and the petty hatred between fans), and a big relief from my life, which as usual is pretty shyte.
Just chill, post stuff, look for the irony/humour, not literal word meanings...
I'll sing the Wires song again if you don't......

Posted 2 years ago #
sauce

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Excellent comments from all before.

Posted 2 years ago #
Hunter F. Thompson

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The thing about free will, Mr Munky, is that we are compelled to use it or lose it.

Posted 2 years ago #
PluckyMunky

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You are right, Mr Thompson, as Monsieur Sartre said we are 'condemned to freedom'. Bless us all.

Posted 2 years ago #
wallster

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Hey Plucky, at least you're generally acknowledged when you write stuff. I've commented loads of times and often been roundly ignored.

I'm not that bothered though. I'm just grateful that some of my subs have made fp or nib despite the deafening silence with which they were usually met on the boards.

My advice is to view this website as a place to ocassionally post humourous news based content, and do your proper socialising down the pub.

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